Little Miss Splendid

Remembrance of Things Past, Seize the Day, and In Search of Beauty and Joy

Serendipity May 16, 2010


Original

《一棵開花的樹》席慕容

如何讓我遇見你
在我最美麗的時候 為這
我已在佛前 求了五百年
求他讓我們結一段塵緣

佛於是把我變成一棵樹
長在你必經的路旁
陽光下慎重地開滿了花
朵朵都是我前世的盼望

當你走近 請你細聽
那顫抖的葉是我等待的熱情
而當你無視地走過
在你身後落下的

朋友啊

那不是花瓣
是我凋零的心



Translation (by 劉昊恩)

《A Blossoming Tree》 By Xi Mu-Rong

Wish we could meet
during my fairest years
For this, I have prayed to the Buddha
for some five hundred years
Prayed that some fate
would bring us together

So Buddha transformed me
into a tree,
Standing alongside
a path you should seek
Beneath the bright sunlight
I bloom cautiously
Each blossom embodying
a yearning desire

As you approach now
Please heed carefully
The trembling foliage
sings my passion so keen
And as you walk by, with
no more than a glance
Faltering behind you
softly to the ground

My friend…

Are not falling petals,
but my withering heart.


Love is a tricky thing. What is love? Why do some people find it so soon and are so sure about it. Whereas, some other people encounter endless obstacles and run around in circles, and still don’t find love?


It is all about timing. Love is about meeting the right person at the right time.



If we meet the person too soon, we might be too young to appreciate love, we haven’t learnt the importance of respect and compromise yet. We have our youthful high hopes and dreams and pursuits, we think we have many years ahead of us, and someone better will come along. Right? But someone better probably wouldn’t come along.

If we meet the person too late, at an age we are ready to settle down and we have learnt respect and compromise, the person might no longer be there waiting.

This is the reason why all the romance movies believe in fate. There is always one defining moment in your life, out of all the places you could possibly be in the world, you were there at that time and you meet who you meet. You better hope it’s the right moment and the right person!

The Chinese mythology believe in reincarnation. People believe our lovers in the past life will find us in this life and we continue the love we had left of. This explains love at first sight and de ja vu – when you meet someone for the first time, have you had the feeling you have seen them before? Do you feel you ‘understand’ them and are connected to them?

“緣” means fate and destiny, and you would pray to Buddha to bring you the right person. In the mean time, we wait and hope we meet our destined lover at our peak – our fairest years, when we still have faith in love, when we still have the courage to seize love, when our eyes still speak of innocence and radiance.

In the poem, Buddha grants the poet’s wish to find her past lover. Buddha transforms her into a tree and places her alongside a path where her love will walk by in this life. As the poet’s love approaches her, the trembling leaves express her calling for him, if he were to feel her presence, he would notice the leaves sings her passion, the 500 years she has prayed for them to meet again, the years she has stood by this path waiting and hoping for this fateful encounter.

The heart-wrenching part of this poem comes when the poet’s love walks past, without hesitation, and unaware of his past love’s longing. As he walks away, behind him, the petals fall as the poet’s dreams and hopes crush and fall to the ground.

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Lessons of boyfriends past April 21, 2010

“I’ve dreamt in my life dreams that have stayed with me ever after, and changed my ideas; they’ve gone through and through me, like wine through water, and altered the colour of my mind.” – Catherine Earnshaw, Wuthering Heights, Emily Bronte

I once met a girl, Jane, through a common friend of ours, she studied Medical Science at university. The reason why I remembered her vividly, despite having only met her once, was because she spoke five languages fluently.

I know many people are multi-lingual, but what makes Jane so memorable was her learning ‘techniques’. She summed up how she mastered English, French, German, Japanese and Turkish in one word, and the word was ‘LOVE’.

I immediately knew what she meant when I saw a twinkle in her eyes when she said the word ‘LOVE’ – is there a stronger motivation for a girl than doing things in the name of LOVE?

Jane was an international student from Singapore, so she lived in uni college where she met many other international students. Every time she falls in love with a boy, she would want to learn everything about him and learn his native language. When I met her, she was dating a half Japanese and half Austrian guy from the UK. During the summer break, they flew to London to meet his family, and his parents were so impressed by her Japanese and German, they loved her and made Jane and her boyfriend stay for an extra week.

I thought of Jane today because during a lunch break conversation with a few female colleagues, one colleague remarked her friend lost 10kg for her boyfriend and we all commented on her silliness. Of course, my colleague’s friend is an extreme case, but it made me wonder, what are the things I have done for the guys I have liked.

Some boys come into your life, whether or not you two have dated – serious or not, some of them were mere crushes; but they leave a mark behind, long after they have exited your life.

I learnt cooking and ice-skating for a boy, I listened to all of Beatles songs for my ex-boyfriend, I learnt to appreciate Dickens, Tolstoy and Wagner for my boyfriend, and I overcame my initial fear of big dogs and now I really love huskies!

Some of the stranger things I have done include:

– watched a movie marathon of ALL Star Wars movies and Indiana Jones series in one weekend (I really enjoyed them);

– became addicted to Top Gear and Doctor Who for a boy I had a secret crush on;

– studied REALLY hard in my final year of high school so I can attend a really good university and be with a boy I had a crush on (thank you P, I am forever grateful),

– I once folded paper stars back in junior high because a friend of mine said 1000 stars grant a wish (but I lasted about 15 stars before I realised how silly it was) etc.

Above all, over the years, I have learnt to compromise, learnt to control my temper, I guess this is just a part of growing up.

Luckily for me, I never did silly things or harm myself for a boy that most likely wouldn’t last. Even though, most guys in our lives come and go, and in hindsight, they didn’t really mean that much; but it’s funny how some habits and hobbies form and stay with us. They act as a reminder of our past, the person we used to be before we met him, and the person we are now today.

I really admire how girls have a stronger degree of motivation to learn things, convert their religions, give up their family and friends, and even change themselves for love. I only hope we can all meet guys who leave with us positive skills and worthy hobbies – just remember the word ‘value’, weigh it against the price you paid for ‘love’.





 

My Love – A few of my favourite things April 15, 2010


Raindrops on roses and whiskers on kittens;
Bright copper kettles and warm woolen mittens;
Brown paper packages tied up with strings;
These are a few of my favorite things.

Cream-colored ponies and crisp apple strudels;
Doorbells and sleigh bells and schnitzel with noodles;
Wild geese that fly with the moon on their wings;
These are a few of my favorite things.

Girls in white dresses with blue satin sashes;
Snowflakes that stay on my nose and eyelashes;
Silver-white winters that melt into springs;
These are a few of my favorite things.



Brevity is over-rated!
I can’t describe myself in 25 words or less – therefore, I dedicate this post to myself and some of my favourite things!


There was a phase on Facebook that people started tagging their friends as characters from Mr.Men and Little Miss, on several different occasions, I was tagged as Little Miss Bossy, Giggles, Chatterbox, Late and Fickle. I don’t deny I possess these character traits, I just can’t believe no one identified me as the little miss that lives in a mansion with a golden bathtub and wants that hat she saw in the store and had to have it. Like Little Miss Splendid, I would also refuse to take that bus, but my shiny new hat will be safe from the rain, because I always carry an umbrella – true story!


I have many interests and I dabble – I am curious about everything but I lack persistence and I am also very easily distracted, so I move on to a new POI before mastering the previous one.



Here are some of my favourite things:

I love beautiful things – especially seeing beauty where others don’t.

I love business, accounting, finance and law – Having a Commerce degree means I should be share trading savvy right? Not really.

I love travelling and photography – One day I will travel the world and see all the beauty the world has to offer and capture them both with my memory and my camera.

I love fashion and shopping – Like most girls, I am tragically fashion-obsessed (but in our defence, we are merely stimulating the much-needed-to-be-stimulated economy).

I love daydreaming and gossiping – that’s how I stay sane 😛

I love flowers and perfumes – experiencing beauty with all my senses. I will definitely dedicate a post to my favourite flowers and my perfume collection.

I love music and arts – especially classical music and French impressionism.

I love theatre/musical and BBC miniseries – I wish we can all just break out into songs or dress like we live in a period Drama.>

I love horoscopes and Greek mythology – there is more to horoscope than your weekly horoscope prediction and Greek mythology is not just about incest!

I love literature and poetry – I love reading, I love books and libraries, and yes I am a total nerd and a hopeless romantic, but


Above all, I love LOVE!